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Coincidences or fate?

Sometimes things happen in your life, and you wonder whether they are mere coincidences or whether there is more meaning to what happened. After all, many things happen during a day, during a week, etc. Every single hour usually has something else happening in your life - and to some events you never give much importance or thought. But some things happen at certain times, and you ask yourself: "Is this supposed to tell me something?"

As I only have very few regular readers on this blog, hardly anyone will have noticed that there has been quite a long gap between a very active time and my latest posts. One fact about me is that it is never a good sign when I stop writing at all. Even if I write something negative, as long as I write, I haven't yet given up on things. The last few weeks were not easy for a variety of reasons, and in the last week especially, things did not look well.

However, just that someone took the time to read some of my rather old posts and even take more time to write thoughtful comments on it, and Michael Jackson also somehow sneaked back into my life. I still don't know how to solve some of the problems without miracles happening, but at least I start to feel a little better again. I might have to try and find some Michael Jackson fans in London, maybe they would be a good connection for me.

What do you think? Are coincidences just coincidences?
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  1. AnonymousMarch 30, 2015 at 1:26 AM

    I think we never know for sure, but we have to follow up on our leads, especially if we have only one. Things may not turn out as we think, but at least we move forward. It might be better to be on a slippery slope, than sitting on the bottom of a pit. Once I was in a deadly trap, being stuck with my life, surrounded by people who hated me, being continuously under attack, day after day (orcs all around). One night I had a dream about an old schoolmate, who lived in another town. I tried to connect, but didn't succeed. I moved to that town anyway, because I had some relatives there, and it was the solution... at least temporarily. Well, I think we never have a final solution in this life.
    You are not alone (Mithrandir).

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    1. WairuanorMarch 31, 2015 at 12:08 PM

      I like the idea behind the slippery slope and the pit - it is very true.
      I also one day moved to a place because of a dream. The person the dream was about turned out to be not very helpful - even counter-productive in what I wanted to achieve with my life. But the move in general helped me to find a new dream - a dream I am still working towards to. Or rather a dream I only just started to believe in again.

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    2. AnonymousApril 1, 2015 at 12:26 AM

      You are very kind. I thought, writing down thoughts I usually don't, might freak you out. I am sorry about your situation. I am jobless and homeless (resulting from my choices, kind of seeking, drawn, attracted into the situation), I can not help you in a material way, but you have the right to have a home. Some people get more to share it with others and not to keep it for themselves, and there might be some around, who understand this.
      Is your dream, written down in one of your posts?

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    3. WairuanorApril 1, 2015 at 5:13 AM

      I do not think I ever wrote about that one particular dream, but it is to be the captain of a riverboat. I just love being on rivers, and I know that I have the right kind of character to be a good captain (I am a bit like Captain Janeway from Star Trek Voyager, if you know that series).

      I do have another big dream, but never talked about it to anyone - and nobody usually ever asks. So thank you for asking about that other dream, it is something very unusual for someone to show interest. Even people who call themselves friends never asked. Not once. Which might be good, too, because it is personal, and so far I haven't yet found the person who would understand this one.

      Never worry about writing down your thoughts. I like people who think, and who are capable of expressing their ideas honestly. I am usually not one to freak out or negatively judge people for their own truth.

      I am sorry to hear that you are also in a bad situation, and I hope you can find a solution to your problems, too. Did you ever think about trying to find jobs as a freelancer? You could do simply writing or typing jobs, either in English or your own language (or even do basic translations!). There are plenty of opportunities as long as you have the chance to spend some time online.

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    4. AnonymousApril 2, 2015 at 4:25 AM

      You are amazing. Thank you for thinking of me. May be I should see your suggestion to be a freelancer, as a sign to follow in that direction. : )) My situation is not so bad, as it may seem, or may be even worse, you never know. : )) 15 years ago I felt my life is not leading to where I want to be, so I stepped out, and started a new. I had a job since then, and I have work even now, even if I have no job at present. It is finding who I am, the truth about myself, and where "my" people are. It is a long long process to peel off all the layers, and we have to try ourselves in various situations, we need a lot of life experience. It seems, there are some things in life we can not understand if we have not lived through it. Such is being out of the system. But the darker place you go the more stars you see. It is sometimes horrifying to go towards the darkness, but from lighter places darkness always seems darker, than it actually is, and one can usually deal with the situation once inside. I am happy.
      Rivers are beautiful. I was born near to a river, and I learned swimming there, and an old neighbor taught me how to fish. It is sad to see what is happening to them.
      You are, who you are to be. The captain is in you, and the river is flowing from within you, no one else has the power to stop it.
      I am interested in your dream, but I don't want to push it. Just when you feel ready. : ))

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    5. WairuanorApril 4, 2015 at 10:26 AM

      Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I hope that you will find "your" people soon - they might be closer than you think. At least that is one thought that keeps me going.

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  2. Elrond HalfelvenMarch 30, 2015 at 11:05 AM

    I think there's definitely something to the things most would call "coincidences." I wouldn't go so far as to say everything happens for a reason, but I think we can make what we will of the so-called "coincidences" in our lives, and use them as a catalyst to move forward and improve ourselves. Sometimes, I think, we make unexpected connections (like coming across something we used to like that has long been forgotten) that can be seen as opportunities - even if nothing more than an opportunity to derive some cheer from something that used to bring us joy. Coincidence or fate: whatever the case may be, it's best we don't waste the opportunity. :)

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    1. WairuanorMarch 31, 2015 at 12:06 PM

      I actually hate it when people try to tell you "EVERYTHING happens for a reason". Some things are just not supposed to happen (like the torture of animals).
      There was a time when I believed in destiny and fate - in a limited way I still do. Sometimes things just happen that do not have a logical explanation.

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